You know it’s an actual possibility.
You talk all the time about a myriad of reasons as to why your boss or your coworkers suck. Basically, any excuse in the book about why your job is so horrible and there’s nothing you can do about it.
It’s easier to blame somebody else when you’re sick and tired of working dead end jobs. Complaining about your job is so normal – after all everyone does it – that it slowly infects your brain to the point where you constantly daydream when you can finally do what you want someday, instead of being chained to your desk.
Except, someday never comes.
Not because you’re lazy. Not because you don’t have what it takes. And it’s certainly not because you’re a horrible human being.
It’s because society has conditioned you to believe that our jobs are supposed to suck. That if something becomes too enjoyable, it ceases to make you any money.
The frightening part is that you’ve believed this lie for far too long. Think long and hard: how many years have you wasted away, feeling really shitty about your job because you think you can’t do better?
The good news is that you can erase this belief once and for all. Ready to learn what it takes?
The Grass Isn’t Greener on the Other Side
First off, let’s clear the air here.
If you quit your job and go to another one, who’s to say that it’ll be so much better? What if your boss ends up being just as manipulative – if not more – than the previous job?
After all, it’s about your perspective on the situation. Who knows, maybe your job really isn’t all that terrible in the grand scheme of things.
I had what many people considered a pretty crappy job. I was passed up for a promotion because I refused to sleep with the boss. Despite that, I thrived at my job because I loved teaching my students and I saw how much of a difference I made in their lives.
And those people who got promotions? They got fired right along with the boss a few months later and was replaced with someone much more caring. If I had quit that job, I wouldn’t have been able to be part of a team that truly valued my contributions.
So go ahead, write down what it is about your job that really sucks. Once you do, take a look at the list and see if there’s anything you can do about it. If there are only aspects of the job you hate, can you do something about it?
Can you ask your supervisor to switch you to another team?
Maybe you offer to come into the office early so that you can leave early, ensuring that you can pick up your daughter from school every day?
You may be surprised at how little tweaks here and there will completely change your situation.
Focus on how you can grow your career and you’ll be surprised at how you’ll start to like your job more.
A Shitty Attitude Equals a Shitty Paycheck
It doesn’t matter if you’re justified in being angry at your job. If you have a bad attitude it’ll manifest into everything you do at work
Why would anyone want to be around a Debbie Downer? Nobody wants to talk with someone who’ll only bring them down as well. You could very well find yourself making more enemies than friends at work.
Besides, the more you focus on the negative, the more you’ll start resenting your job and could result in poor job performance.
Instead turn that frown upside down – what can you do to see the positive aspects?
Are you grateful that your employer provides a pretty robust health insurance plan? Or your boss offers to buy everyone dinner even though he makes you work long hours.
Even if you can’t find something to be grateful right now, focus on the steady paycheck. Even better yet, make it point to brighten a coworker’s day by asking how they’re doing or offering to buy a cup of coffee.
When you finally feel better, you can clear your head and focus on equally important things, like never needing to rely on a paycheck ever again.
Get Your (Money) Freak On
If you live paycheck to paycheck, you’ll feel indebted to your job. And if you have this burning desire to quit, you’ll hate your job even more because you feel like you can’t leave.
Getting your money organized helps you feel more in control of the situation, so that you’ll not only feel better about your financial life, but your work life as well. Who knows, once you end the paycheck to paycheck cycle, all of the aspects of the job you hate could magically go away.
Before rushing out to find a financial advisor or buy a ton of books on budgeting, take a look at what you’ve got going on first.
How much are you spending in any given month? What’s your take home pay (after taxes)? Do you have any debt?
Then, and only then can you make any changes.
It’s OK to Want to Get the Hell Outta There
Sometimes you do need to switch gears. After all, you’re spending 40+ hours each week at your job. What kind of life are you really living if you feel chained at your desk, looking out the window wishing you could run away?
If you switched your perspective, practiced a whole lot of gratitude and got your money stuff together, you may find that you still want to change jobs.
It’s totally cool if that’s the case. You’re totally allowed to give yourself permission to follow your dreams.
At the same time, you need to factor the practical matters – What does it really take? How much money will you need? Do you have a backup plan in case things go south?
Yes, it may seem like there are way too many steps to start loving your job, but you’re halfway there.
You’ve already tackled a major hurdle most people haven’t even begun to understand. And that’s realizing you can be happy at your job.
You may be miserable now, but it won’t be for long.
Instead of daydreaming of how someday you’ll make money doing something you love, imagine how your current job is helping you right now.
Right now, your paycheck is helping you chip away at your student loan debt or buy a really thoughtful gift for your best friend who’s getting married in a few days.
Right now, your job allows you to get a master’s degree for free, one that you can use to advance your career and earn twice what you make right now.
Right now, your job gives you an opportunity to learn how to be ultra-productive so that one day you can use those skills to be stress-free.
In each of the above scenarios, you learn something that’ll benefit you throughout your career. Even if your job truly sucks and it’s not entirely your fault, you can do something about it.
In other words my friend, you’ll get through to the other side.
When you truly love your job and everyone else around you hates theirs, you’ll feel like the luckiest person alive.
Being a badass with your money is as easy as asking yourself what you want.
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